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		<title>What Creativity is Not</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 27 Mar 2014 22:50:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bridget DiCello</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Creativity is not having unique and cool ideas that hit you out of the blue on a regular basis.  It doesn’t necessarily have to do with art in its many forms.  Dictionary.com defines it as “the ability to transcend traditional ideas, rules, patterns, relationships, to create meaningful new ideas, forms, methods, and interpretations. Creativity in &#8230;]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Creativity is not having unique and cool ideas that hit you out of the blue on a regular basis.  It doesn’t necessarily have to do with art in its many forms.  Dictionary.com defines it as “the ability to transcend traditional ideas, rules, patterns, relationships, to create meaningful new ideas, forms, methods, and interpretations.</p>
<p>Creativity in the professional business realm is firmly rooted in the ability to <b><i>connect seemingly unrelated information, thoughts, ideas and strategies</i></b>.  This requires a few key things:</p>
<ol>
<li><b><i>Expectations must be communicated.</i></b>  If you ask people to be creative, they can interpret that in many ways.  Provide the framework.  Start with describing the situation – not the specific problem to be solved, but the situation – the destination in general terms, the constraints, the history, and the clear objectives.  To do this, you must make sure you do not solve 90% of the problem in this step.  Leave it open enough to allow for creative thought, while providing a framework with immovable constraints, company values and goals not up for debate.</li>
<li><b><i>Describe the Creative Process.</i></b>  If you ask people for ideas, and then don’t use any, tell them they are wrong or that their idea won’t work, you will stop the creativity from flowing.  “Yes, and…” is a good approach.  Explain that you want to brainstorm 100 ideas in 5 different areas.  Tell them what will happen next and how those ideas will be processed.  Involve others as much as possible in the steps of the process and the implementation.  You can elicit more involvement, especially from those you might think are not creative, by creating a safe and predictable place.</li>
<li><b><i>Ask Questions to clarify.</i></b>  The idea that someone puts forth first is rarely their best idea.  They are testing the waters.  If they are shut down, you will never hear the good idea.  Curiously ask them the How, What, When, Where types of questions to better understand their suggestion.  Most of us cannot clearly communicate what is in our head in 30 seconds or less, especially with a creative or unique idea or concept.</li>
<li><b><i>Connect the Dots.</i></b>  If you enter the creative process without ‘the solution’ in your mind, you have a lot better chance of combining seemingly unrelated ideas.  Group words on paper.  Create different categories.  Find multiple ways that different ideas connect.  Don’t jump too quickly to conclusions.  If you need an immediate solution, then have a meeting with your problem solvers and solve the problem.  If you want to stimulate creativity, give it time to grow and ideas to evolve.</li>
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		<title>A Strength or a Skill?  Which is which?</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 07 Mar 2012 15:53:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bridget DiCello</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Janice is a whiz at taking notes, summarizing what happened in a meeting of 20 people going in all directions, and pinpointing not only the most important points, but the action items upon which everyone agreed. Strategically, she asks key questions throughout the meeting to clarify points, expand conversation to alleviate confusion and isolate what &#8230;]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Janice is a whiz at taking notes, summarizing what happened in a meeting of 20 people going in all directions, and pinpointing not only the most important points, but the action items upon which everyone agreed. Strategically, she asks key questions throughout the meeting to clarify points, expand conversation to alleviate confusion and isolate what needs to be acted upon. Because of her brilliant abilities to do this tough task, Janice is often asked to act in that role.</p>
<p>The problem is, Janice really does not like to take the notes, is worn out by the process and gets bored in that role especially because it prevents her from actively sharing her opinions in the meeting. She is skilled, but taking notes is not her strength.</p>
<p>What is a strength? <em><strong>A strength is something that energizes you.</strong></em></p>
<p>Think about the times you are excited to be at work, times you really feel full of energy for what you are doing and despite difficulties, you can keep working at a task that is truly challenging. Those are the times you are working with your strengths.</p>
<p>You may not be exceptionally talented in your areas of strength, but the fact is that you are energized by doing the task, by working to get better at it, and have much resilience to push forward.</p>
<p>On the other hand, a skill is something that you are good at doing. Maybe through innate ability, or lots of practice or hard work, you have built up this skill. And it certainly feels good to be successful at something. But, it is not necessarily exciting for you and you don’t look forward to it.</p>
<p>Each individual needs to identify their strengths and pinpoint their skills. Then, the greatest part about a strength is that you are eager to work very hard to get better at it because you enjoy the process. And you have enormous potential to significantly improve your performance in an area of strength. Seize that opportunity and ensure your employees do the same!</p>
<p><a title="Did you ever wonder why difficult conversations occur?" href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJ5bQUjQebI&amp;feature=g-upl&amp;context=G2e60128AUAAAAAAADAA">Did you ever wonder why difficult conversations occur?</a></p>
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		<title>Egotistical Jerk or Passionate Leader?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 14 Feb 2012 15:56:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bridget DiCello</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you&#8217;ve ever had the boss who has said, &#8220;My way or the highway!&#8221; &#8220;&#8230;because I said so!&#8221; &#8220;That&#8217;s just the way it is,&#8221; and &#8220;Get it done yesterday &#8211; I don&#8217;t care how!&#8221; you may be hesitant to come across like a demanding jerk to your employees. Jim Collins in his description of a &#8230;]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If you&#8217;ve ever had the boss who has said,</p>
<p align="center">&#8220;My way or the highway!&#8221;</p>
<p align="center">&#8220;&#8230;because I said so!&#8221;</p>
<p align="center">&#8220;That&#8217;s just the way it is,&#8221; and</p>
<p align="center">&#8220;Get it done yesterday &#8211; I don&#8217;t care how!&#8221;</p>
<p>you may be hesitant to come across like a demanding jerk to <strong><em>your</em></strong> employees.</p>
<p>Jim Collins in his description of a <a href="http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?llr=y8nadxn6&amp;et=1109290220981&amp;s=0&amp;e=001Ec0Bh00zAIYag0xaZIj_xXxp249Coib95ljRrozv-e-ji7rT5AHqFDron2dq_j0qIgzkSQ9UfLUnNU8NkuMEo-A1uJriFFOD34y4zhVgBt7nlv2GqYUTifGYy14XWqKw" target="_blank">Level V Leader</a> says that level of leadership is attained by a humble yet passionate leader.</p>
<p>So, when do you get tough and lay it on the line, even to the point of saying, &#8220;That&#8217;s just how it is!&#8221; to your employees?</p>
<p><strong><em>You know you&#8217;re being a jerk when&#8230;</em></strong></p>
<ol start="1">
<li>There is a self-serving motive behind your rant like ego preservation, desire to win/they lose, or desire to intimidate.</li>
<li>You do not take the time to let them speak</li>
<li>You honestly don&#8217;t care what they think and don&#8217;t feel like they can contribute despite their subject matter expertise.</li>
</ol>
<p><strong><em>You know you are being a passionate leader when&#8230;</em></strong></p>
<ol start="1">
<li>You listen curiously and with genuine interest to what they are saying, combining empathy with high standards in your head.</li>
<li>Your blood pressure starts to rise because they have/or continue to do something hurtful to accomplishing the company vision/mission/goals.</li>
<li>You respond carefully and choose your words to avoid being hurtful AND present the mission/vision component with passion because that is the reason why their behavior is a problem.</li>
</ol>
<p>You <strong><em>can </em></strong>get excited and passionate about your core values, vision, mission and goals.</p>
<p>You <strong><em>cannot</em></strong> scream and yell because someone made you mad and has frustrated you.</p>
<p>You <strong><em>can</em></strong> get determined and definite when what an employee did interfered with overall accomplishment of goals or the way you want your company to operate.</p>
<p>You <strong><em>cannot</em></strong> get miffed, sarcastic and rude because someone kept you personally from meeting your goal.</p>
<p>The mission, vision and core values of an organization are its backbone &#8211; the reason it exists and how business will be conducted.  This backbone is something to get excited about and no one will fault you if you get passionate and determined about it, as long as you treat them respectfully (no yelling, swearing, sarcasm, personal attacks or demeaning comments).  You may even appear egotistical if you are personally very invested in the core values and vision.  But a drive towards an admirable vision is always about more than just your desire to accomplish it, and that will come through to your team.</p>
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		<title>The Difference between Cheesy Awards &amp; Awards Employees want to Receive</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 20 Dec 2011 17:06:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bridget DiCello</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Have you ever been given a plaque, certificate or trophy that you were very proud to receive?  Have you ever received an award that meant very little?  What was the difference? How to give awards that will have an impact: 1.      Tie them to business results that matter.  Do you give a Perfect Attendance Award?  &#8230;]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Have you ever been given a plaque, certificate or trophy that you were very proud to receive?  Have you ever received an award that meant very little?  What was the difference?</p>
<p>How to give awards that will have an impact:</p>
<p>1.      <strong><em>Tie them to business results that matter.</em></strong>  Do you give a Perfect Attendance Award?  Could the worst employee receive the award if they just showed up every day &#8211; even if they did crappy work, annoyed their coworkers and trashed the company on a regular basis?  In some industries, attendance is extremely important and this award might make sense, but take the time to determine the business results you most want to reward.  These might be components of the company vision or mission, or themes of the yearly goals.</p>
<p>2.      <strong><em>Use criteria other than popular vote or owner choice.</em></strong>  When you ask for nominations for a particular award, ask for specific examples or reasons for the nomination.  Ask the nominator to share a mini story about why this person deserves the &#8220;Employee of the Year&#8221; award, for example.  Use the business results you determined above to ask for comments in those particular areas.  Once you gather the nominations, the number of votes is not as important as the content of the stories and examples.  Regardless of who is chosen to receive the award, make sure all the nominations get back to the employee so they can read the nice things everyone has said about them.  Send them home in a thank you note so they can open it in front of their family.</p>
<p>3.      <strong><em>Deliver the award with a bit of a &#8220;wow&#8221;.</em></strong>  Share some comments from the nominations, add your own specifics, keep the suspense about who is receiving the award while you describe it, have a drum roll, and gather as many people as possible, including some key leaders.</p>
<p>4.      <strong><em>Give them something cool to walk home with.</em></strong>  Certificates and plaques are okay, but I&#8217;ve seen some really interesting award &#8220;trophies,&#8221; whether it be something useful or something pleasant to display.</p>
<p>Before you hand out those awards this year, check them against these criteria to see if they will be seen as cheesy or as sincerely appreciated.  What else do you do to make your awards more impactful?</p>
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		<title>The Accountability Conversation</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 26 Oct 2011 11:08:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bridget DiCello</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The Accountability conversation is one of the most difficult and this is why it does not occur routinely in many companies.  This conversation is the one that comes before the disciplinary situation where you’d like to fire the person.  It comes during the normal course of doing business and should be an ongoing conversation.  It &#8230;]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The Accountability conversation is one of the most difficult and this is why it does not occur routinely in many companies.  This conversation is the one that comes before the disciplinary situation where you’d like to fire the person.  It comes during the normal course of doing business and should be an ongoing conversation.  It should not be a surprise if you have set the expectation that it is coming.</p>
<p>With that said, start by asking yourself these questions:</p>
<ul>
<li>What is the specific unacceptable behavior that is causing the problem with performance?  Define the <strong><em>specific</em></strong> behavior and avoid accusatory adjectives like “grumpy, bad attitude, lacks initiative, lazy, etc.”</li>
<li>Does the employee know what the expectation is?  When have you told them and did they get it?</li>
<li>Has the current performance been acceptable in the past?  Still needs to be addressed, but this must be acknowledged.</li>
</ul>
<p>Accountability works best when both the manager and the employee know it is coming, there is a set routine for doing it, and both people are involved.  These are the steps that are most important.</p>
<ol>
<li> Be sure to clearly explain what is expected.  More detail may be required for some front line employees, where higher level employees may have more freedom in how to do the job and the expectation will be more about results.</li>
<li>“Test” understanding.  Not by asking them to repeat what you said, but by asking a question that requires they speak about what they will do first, what they expect to be most difficult etc.</li>
<li>Set a time and date for follow up.  And make sure they realize what they will have been expected to accomplish by that time.  This may be a specific result, progress they will have been expected to make or a task that should be finished.</li>
<li>Stick with the time and date you establish.  At that time, ask them to report on their progress, without you having to prod with a million questions.</li>
<li>Keep the accountability going by setting the next expectation and the next accountability date.  Have these types of conversations all the time, taking just a moment or setting a sit-down meeting.</li>
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		<title>Getting People Engaged</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 23 Sep 2011 11:41:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bridget DiCello</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Engaged people are those who are interested enough to do something.  Engagement means movement.  Action. What makes people act?  A desire to act usually comes from a desire to reach something greater than where they are either because of discomfort with the current situation or a vision of what’s possible beyond the current reality. What &#8230;]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Engaged people are those who are interested enough to do something.  Engagement means movement.  Action.</p>
<p>What makes people act?  A desire to act usually comes from a desire to reach something greater than where they are either because of discomfort with the current situation or a vision of what’s possible beyond the current reality.</p>
<p>What does that mean for you in trying to get team members, peers, associates, and employees engaged?  Create an Invitation and find Common Ground.</p>
<p><strong><em>Create an Invitation:</em></strong>  I’ve heard it often said that people will act because someone asked them to.  Will you help someone who asks?  Will you get involved because someone you trust invites you to?  Will you respond when someone explains what they need you to do?</p>
<p>Too often, people may not get engaged in a process, in planning, in executing and in implementing because it is easier not to.  Easier not to put themselves out on a limb, extend beyond their level of confidence, assume their help or involvement is not needed or assume what they are currently doing is enough.  If you see possibility beyond where your team is currently operating, invite others to see what you see, and ask them for their specific participation.</p>
<p>“You’ve put a lot of time and effort into this.  I appreciate all you’ve done.   I can’t help thinking that we could make it even better if we&#8230;  Will you help me by &#8230;?”</p>
<p><strong><em>Find Common Ground</em></strong>:  People act because there is something in it for them.  I don’t mean people are self-centered and selfish.  I mean that each of us operates from our own point of view and when something is exciting, important and valuable to us, we tend to get involved.</p>
<p>Have you ever learned something new or gained more in depth knowledge about a cause, a problem or a challenge, and then decided to get (more) involved?</p>
<p>Finding Common Ground requires that we have a conversation with whomever we are trying to get more engaged.  It means we share some of our passion, and let them respond and determine for themselves what it is they are excited about.  There are often many facets of a project, problem or situation and the specific reason we get excited may not be the same as another person, and yet we both can become avid workers towards the end goal.</p>
<p>“I was thinking about the reason we started working on this project and how exciting it will be when we achieve the goal of&#8230;  What is it that you are most excited about?”</p>
<p>Who on your team needs to be more engaged?  Who do you wish would be of more help to you in what you are trying to accomplish?  Have you issued the Invitation and do they see the Common Ground?</p>
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		<title>The Coaching Conversation</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Sep 2011 17:24:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bridget DiCello</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Coaching is having a series of conversations with an individual in order to help them access their hidden potential to achieve greater levels of success. -          Bridget M. DiCello It is essential that you have both &#8220;Conversations on the Go&#8221; as well as &#8220;Undivided Attention Meetings.&#8221;  When you see acceptable or unacceptable behaviors, sometimes you &#8230;]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>Coaching is having a series of conversations with an individual in order to help them access their hidden potential to achieve greater levels of success.</em></p>
<p align="right">-          <em>Bridget M. DiCello</em></p>
<p>It is essential that you have both &#8220;Conversations on the Go&#8221; as well as &#8220;Undivided Attention Meetings.&#8221;  When you see acceptable or unacceptable behaviors, sometimes you need to address them immediately for greatest impact.  Other times you need to get both the employee and yourself focused on their improvement in a planned meeting where you have each other&#8217;s undivided attention.  In which meeting you bring up an issue depends on the urgency of the needed change in behavior.  If you wait as an unacceptable behavior continues, your frustration increases as does the employee&#8217;s resistance to change &#8211; which makes the conversation more difficult when it does occur.</p>
<p><strong>Conversations on the Go:</strong></p>
<p>1.  You bring up the unacceptable behavior and get them talking.<br />
&#8220;I&#8217;m concerned about&#8230; because&#8230;  What Happened?&#8221;</p>
<p>2.  Then you talk.  Explain current unacceptable behaviors describing them specifically.  &#8220;Your bad attitude&#8221; and &#8220;your lack of initiative&#8221; are not specific behaviors.</p>
<p>3.  Get commitment to precise, doable action from the employee.</p>
<p>4.  Determine a follow up date &#8211; it may be your monthly meeting with them.</p>
<p><strong>Undivided Attention Meetings</strong> &#8211; Monthly meeting where each of your direct reports prepares for and attends a meeting with you.</p>
<p align="center"><em>This is not about how you can help them or what they think you or the company could do differently.  This is about <span style="text-decoration: underline;">them</span> reporting on their progress and challenges.</em></p>
<p>According to set agenda both you and they have prior to the meeting:</p>
<p>1.   They report their successes first &#8211; according to goals you have set</p>
<p>2.  They report on set metrics, projects, goals, status</p>
<p>3.  They identify the areas where they have fallen short and what they will <em>do differently.</em></p>
<p>4.  You compliment them on successes you&#8217;ve seen</p>
<p>5.  You comment on their performance that can be improved. (using specific examples of unacceptable and acceptable behaviors.)</p>
<p>6.  <strong>Get commitment to precise, do-able and measurable action.  </strong>Help them come up with action items and strategies.  This is not easy and may take time.  Dig in and really find a do-able action.  Use Clarifying Questions like, &#8220;Can you give me an example?&#8221; and &#8220;Can you be more specific?&#8221; and &#8220;What have you tried in the past?&#8221;  <em>Watch for Smokescreens and Tangents.  </em></p>
<p>7.  Determine a follow-up date and follow-up.</p>
<p>The only way you can help your team to really access their potential and therefore move your team to a higher level of performance is if you coach them.  Even the best employees need your coaching.  Michael Jordan had a coach who pushed him to excel!</p>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 18 Aug 2011 07:02:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bridget DiCello</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;I know you can do it!”  Why are these such powerful words?  When voiced by a someone about a colleague or team member, they express confidence in that person.  Despite the independent, confident, maybe egotistical approach of people who are difficult to work with, I believe there is a great lack of self-confidence under the &#8230;]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;I know you can do it!”  Why are these such powerful words?  When voiced by a someone about a colleague or team member, they express confidence in that person.  Despite the independent, confident, maybe egotistical approach of people who are difficult to work with, I believe there is a great lack of self-confidence under the surface, being hidden by confident speech.  When someone who they respect, whether because of a great relationship or by only an official relationship, says they believe they can do something, it energizes that person.</p>
<p>You are telling them that you believe in them and that they should believe in themselves.  Too mushy for you?  Well, it’s powerful and used well, can bring about significant changes in performance and levels of cooperation.</p>
<p>Do you tell team members this who you find difficult to interact with?  Can you get yourself to believe it for those who have less than stellar performance?</p>
<p>Why would you say this if you don’t believe it 100%?  There is power in what we say about ourselves and what others say about us.  By saying, “I know you can do it,” you are instilling a determination in that person.</p>
<p>You will find the most success when you follow up by holding them accountable to what they have agreed to.</p>
<p>What if they fail?  Doesn’t that mean you were wrong?  No!  It just depends on what timeframe you are talking about.  If you say they can accomplish something and they get frustrated because they didn’t get it done in a week.  Push harder.  Insist you know they can do it and ask them what the next step they are going to do is.  Everything is accomplished with a series of small steps.</p>
<p>Sometimes team members may at first look to prove you wrong in order to stay in their comfortable current level of performance.  Insist you believe they can do what needs to be done, that they have the ability to learn and to accomplish more than they have.</p>
<p>Try it.  Say, “I know you can do it!” with conviction to each person important to your success once a week and see what happens!</p>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 22 Jul 2011 23:40:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bridget DiCello</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Managers use laziness as a reason why employees don&#8217;t do a good job or complete tasks they are assigned.  Maybe you have uttered the accusation, &#8220;(S)he&#8217;s just lazy!&#8221;  Some believe that people in general are lazy I couldn&#8217;t disagree more! People are passionate, driven and intelligent beings!  We even see those with great physical and &#8230;]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Managers use laziness as a reason why employees don&#8217;t do a good job or complete tasks they are assigned.  Maybe you have uttered the accusation, &#8220;(S)he&#8217;s just lazy!&#8221;  Some believe that people in general are lazy</p>
<p><em><strong>I couldn&#8217;t disagree more! </strong></em>People are passionate, driven and intelligent beings!  We even see those with great physical and mental limitations accomplish great things. (Like the world-renown pianist who has only four fingers total!)</p>
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<p><em><strong>That drive to contribute, accomplish and succeed is in every  person &#8211; it may just be buried deeply behind a lifetime of bad  experiences, of hearing words that beat up the self-confidence and a  barrage of media messages that promulgate mediocrity.</strong></em></p>
<p>Any  employee who works for you has worked other places before, has  interacted with friends and family, and has received messages about what  they can accomplish and what is acceptable and expected &#8211; for years.</p>
<p>Laziness is defined as averse or disinclined to work, activity, or exertion and slow-moving and sluggish.  Why would someone act this way?</p>
<p>1. Failing to do the work in a previous job did not bring any negative results and they continued to get a paycheck.  They watched others work hard and get paid the same thing or be given more work to do.</p>
<p>2.  They&#8217;ve  worked hard in the past to reach a particular goal and failed, received  harsh criticism for doing so, and were not given any coaching or a  second chance.</p>
<p>3.  They  have grown up in a generation who believes they are entitled to a great  life and it&#8217;s easy to get there &#8211; just watch TV and pay attention to  the messages, and it&#8217;s no surprise.</p>
<p>4.  They  have never found their passion, gotten really excited about the mission  or goals of a company and have never had a leader that connected with  them enough to ignite this excitement.</p>
<p>5.  No  one has ever &#8220;forced&#8221; them to be successful, by pushing them out of  their comfort zone and providing a safety net to assist in their  success.</p>
<p>6.  They  have never worked with a boss who took the time to get to know them,  what is important to them and where they are coming from &#8211; in order to  help them feel part of the team and work to their strengths.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m sure there are many reasons why someone would appear &#8220;Lazy,&#8221; and these are just a few.  Below are suggestions of how you, as the manager, might address an employee who acts lazy for these reasons.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>1.  <strong><em>No negative results in the past.</em></strong> Ensure you are clearly setting expectations, explaining consequences and holding them accountable.  Take  the time to provide the routine accountability, insist they report on  their successes and failures and require they give you an idea of what  they can do differently to continue to improve.</p>
<p>2.  <strong><em>Past failures.</em></strong> Celebrate success and hard work.  Even  little bits of success and small steps in the right direction should be  acknowledged by you &#8211; as should little failures and small steps in the  wrong direction &#8211; receive coaching and redirection.</p>
<p>3.  <strong><em>Entitlement.</em></strong> Realize  that your employees may have a different mindset, and may not have  grown up in a strong environment to teach them otherwise.  Do you as the manager have to act like a parent?  In the role of imparting values, yes, sometimes you do.</p>
<p>4.  <strong><em>Lack of Passion.</em></strong> Share  the mission and goals, get them talking about them (notice I did not  say that you should talk about them), require they come up with good  ideas and show them through leading by example what passion looks like  (this means all your managers need to do so, not just you if you are the  top dog).</p>
<p>5.  <strong><em>Force Success.</em></strong> No  matter how small, require they do tasks and activities outside their  comfort zone, check in with them before they have a chance to fail to  redirect them if necessary, and help them to taste success!  Your involvement will become less as time goes on.</p>
<p>6.  <strong><em>Bad boss.</em></strong> The  best bosses expect great things, demand excellence, impart passion and  excitement and most importantly, connect with their people.  They realize that the best processes and systems in the world will have limitations if they cannot engage their people.  Engaging  them means taking the time to build a relationship, but a relationship  is a two way street &#8211; they also insist the employee does their part!</p>
<p>Have  you had an experience where you thought an employee was lazy, but were  able to uncover a great employee using techniques like those listed  above?</p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Jul 2011 23:07:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bridget DiCello</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[People motivate themselves.  However, there are things that leaders can do to facilitate the process.  But first, let&#8217;s examine a few common myths. People get motivated by an energetic, enthusiast leader. Some people do, and some just find that level of energy annoying or downright exhausting.  (If you do, you&#8217;re probably an introvert who would &#8230;]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>People motivate themselves.  However, there are things that leaders can do to facilitate the process.  But first, let&#8217;s examine a few common myths.</p>
<p><strong>People get motivated by an energetic, enthusiast leader.</strong> Some people do, and some just find that level of energy annoying or downright exhausting.  (If you do, you&#8217;re probably an introvert who would find great information in reading <a href="http://www.amazon.com/s/?ie=UTF8&amp;keywords=introvert+advantage&amp;tag=mh0b-20&amp;index=stripbooks&amp;hvadid=155155867&amp;ref=pd_sl_17hymv72hq_e">The Introvert Advantage</a>, a great book recommended by a friend years ago.)  This  energetic leader may get others excited about what they are doing, but  rarely will this excitement alone result in the person displaying  lasting motivation.  And, it can be very difficult for a  leader to maintain that enthusiasm level, when they are expected to be  the fuel for everyone&#8217;s fire all the time.</p>
<p><strong>People get motivated by fear of repercussions.</strong> I  read once that people would much rather experience all kinds of  terrible repercussions than go through the painful process of changing  their behaviors.  And over and over I see that is true.  If  it&#8217;s easy to change their behaviors just enough to not get fired,  people may do that, but never will they be motivated by their fear to do  any more than the minimum.</p>
<p><strong>People get motivated by hearing how important it is to get things done.</strong> It&#8217;s  true that people are motivated when they are excited about the expected  results, ambitious goals and the vision and mission of the  organization.  However, the motivation does not necessarily appear because they <em>heard</em> about the expected results or vision/mission.  Very few people will become motivated for longer than a brief time when they <em>hear</em> something.</p>
<p>Most people will agree that those who are motivated do things.  Dictionary.com defines motivating others as &#8220;to stimulate toward action.&#8221;  There is a long distance between hearing something and doing it.</p>
<p><strong><em>Therefore, in order to get others motivated, you need to find a way to get them TO TALK and TO DO.  And ensure they experience success, however small, as a result.</em></strong></p>
<p><strong>To Talk and To Do:</strong></p>
<p>1.  <strong>Stop Talking. </strong>If you want to get a message across, speak some and then stop.  Ask questions and have a conversation which includes getting the other person talking.  Talking  about the importance of the project/task, the possible methods for  getting it done, the obstacles they see, the fears they have and the  first steps they will take.</p>
<p>2.  <strong>Make First Steps Happen. </strong>In  order to get started, some people need to be &#8220;forced&#8221; to take the first  step, possibly because of fear of the unknown or perfectionist  tendencies which lead to procrastination.  Laziness is often a misnomer.  As their manager, you might have to determine the first step with them, decide on a deadline and hold them to it.  When they experience success, their motivation level will increase.</p>
<p>What successes have you experienced in motivating others?  What challenges do you face?  Do you talk too much in your efforts to motivate others?  Are you effective at holding others accountable?</p>
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